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Archives of Nethys

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NPC Core / Relationships and Advancement

Connection Subsystem

Source NPC Core pg. 226
The connection subsystem is designed to be used for adventure arcs or campaigns that span multiple sessions and is flexible for a range of relationship types. It can be used to track the changes in a romantic relationship, friendship, business partnership, or the bond between siblings. A PC advances through Connection Tiers by investing in relationships with NPCs or loses Connection Tiers by affronting NPCs.

This subsystem has many similarities to reputation but is simplified since it's meant to be overall more interpersonal and less campaign-shaping. It's also notably harder to improve from the worst depths of a hostile connection.

Consent, Safety, and In-Game Relationships

Games that focus heavily on relationships come with additional considerations around consent and player safety. In particular, games that focus on roleplaying dating and flirting can blur the line between acting out a scene and using a scene to flirt in real life. Your group should consider the feelings of all players and any bystanders to the game, not just those engaging in romantic arcs or roleplaying.

Bleed And Boundaries

Bleed—the blurring of boundaries between the player's feelings and those of their characters—is a common occurrence when focusing on relationships. This sometimes shows up when two characters dating in the campaign story leads to the players dating outside the game. However, it can also appear when in-character rivalries cause tension between the players. Bleed is a common experience in games, since acting out social interactions makes them feel real as a result. It also affects players and Game Masters equally, so all participants need to be aware of how the game may affect their out-of-game feelings.

Check-Ins And Calibrations

Participants—Game Masters and players—should never be forced into roleplaying a romantic relationship without their consent. When it seems like romantic relationships may come up in the game, all participants should discuss their boundaries. This should include both the type of relationship they're interested in exploring in the game and the amount of detail involved. For example, a player may want to have an NPC as a background relationship that rarely comes into the spotlight, while another player may want to be more detailed. When considering these boundaries, consider the relationship between the players and the level of trust. Specific safety tools can be helpful in defining these boundaries and providing a safety net during play.

Out-of-character check-ins and calibrations are useful after big moments between two characters (such as a rejection of an advance or a pivotal moment that makes a relationship more intense). However, they should also occur any time events in a game seem to affect the relationship between players. Check-ins can occur mid-scene, particularly if a participant is reacting negatively to the way the game is playing out. Since the excitement of playing can influence emotions, it's also good practice to do occasional check-ins outside of gaming sessions.

These check-ins should focus on whether the participants feel like they have appropriate agency in the way a relationship is playing out, that they meaningfully consent to the interaction, and that they're aware of any effect this has on the relationship between those at the table. Check-ins can also include participants and bystanders who aren't directly in the scene.

Creating a Connection

Source NPC Core pg. 226
Connections are between either an individual PC or a group of characters. When a connection is first made, determine who it is between. If it's between an individual PC and NPC, only that PC's actions influence the Connection Tier. If it's between a group of player characters and an NPC, all the PCs' actions influence the Connection Tier. For group relationships, multiply all requirements to advance or recede a connection by the number of PCs. Group connections can be divided into individual connections, and individual connections can be combined into a group connection as suits the dynamic of your group and story.

There's no limit on the number of connections that an individual PC or group may have, though maintaining many connections may prove difficult.

Connection Tiers

Source NPC Core pg. 226
Connections fall into tiers, which correspond to how invested the NPC is in the connection. Most NPC relationships will not reach the highest tiers but may still be useful to track.

Most connections start at the acquainted tier. However, at the GM's discretion, a relationship may begin at a higher or lower tier. For example, the academic rival of a PC may begin as a despised connection but slowly come around to being an associated relationship. Likewise, the long-lost brother may start as an associated connection instead of an acquaintance due to the familial history.

These tiers only indicate the other party's feelings toward the PC or group that has the connection. The feelings of a PC can vary in reciprocity, and should be roleplayed rather than measured.

Connections

ConnectionAdvanced ByReceded By
Bonded — Moderate or major insult
Committed Major token Any insult
Associated Moderate or major token Any insult
Acquainted Any token Any insult
Avoided Any token Moderate or major insult
Despised Moderate or major token Major insult
Vindictive Major token —

Bonded

Source NPC Core pg. 226
The NPC considers this relationship to be one of the most important in their lives. These connections are typically intended to be lifelong, though they may still recede if neglected. If asked, a bonded connection provides any favor if able. Examples of this type of connection include sworn siblings, spouses, and queerplatonic partners.

Committed

Source NPC Core pg. 226
The NPC is invested in the relationship with the PC and actively seeks them out to spend time together. These connections are typically long-term or deep relationships. Examples include an established mentor, a steady romantic partner, or an ongoing business partnership.

Associated

Source NPC Core pg. 227
The NPC knows the PC well and is usually friendly to them. These connections are mostly friendly relationships. Examples of this connection include the innkeeper at a favorite tavern, a cousin, or the early stages of a romantic relationship.

Acquainted

Source NPC Core pg. 227
The NPC is aware of the PCs but is generally neutral about their relationship with them. These connections are the most common, and most acquainted connections don't need to be tracked. Examples include a wholesale supplier of goods, a classmate, an undeclared crush, or a member of the same faction.

Avoided

Source NPC Core pg. 227
The NPC doesn't want to be associated with the connection and avoids interacting with them. While the NPC doesn't mean harm, they won't provide assistance unless they're convinced to do so. Examples include a noble who was insulted, a stiffed merchant, participant in a lousy date, or member of a rival faction.

Despised

Source NPC Core pg. 227
The NPC strongly dislikes the connection and avoids any association with them. They may actively sabotage the connection if given the opportunity. Examples include a bitter former friend, jilted former suitor, or long-term personal rival.

Vindictive

Source NPC Core pg. 227
The NPC pursues the connection with the goal of destroying them and making their plans fail. This NPC appears to cause the connection trouble whenever possible. Examples include an embarrassed villain or a single-minded adversary.

Connection Advancement

Source NPC Core pg. 227
Connections advance and recede in conjunction with the actions and investments of the PCs. The Connections table shows how connections advance and recede. Tokens of affection advance connection tiers, while insults recede them.

Maintaining Relationship and Decay

Source NPC Core pg. 227
Connections don't naturally stay at the same intensity over time if the PC stops interacting with the NPC. If a long period passes where the PC doesn't spend time or communicate with the NPC, the connection recedes one tier. Relationship decay doesn't reduce a relationship's status to avoided or despised; this degree of dislike requires an active insult or other narrative complications to occur.

Relationship decay typically takes several months of in-game time to occur and doesn't usually happen while the PCs are actively adventuring, except in extreme cases. Relationship decay should be the result of the PCs actively making story choices to spend their time and attention elsewhere rather than a situation they need to manage that keeps them from going on adventures.

Tokens

Source NPC Core pg. 227
Tokens of affection are acts that engender goodwill or otherwise make the connection feel positively.
  • Minor tokens are small acts that don't take much time or investment from a PC. Examples include offering a simple or casual gift (like a bouquet of flowers from a nearby shop), apologizing for previous wrongdoing, talking to an NPC about how their day is going, spending a day of downtime strengthening the connection, or swearing a lowstakes oath.
  • Moderate tokens require considerable investment or resources. They typically require effort or commitment from the PC, such as fulfilling a complicated promise, spending a week of downtime strengthening the connection, giving a particularly thoughtful or effortful gift (like a bouquet of the NPC's favorite rare flowers, gathered from a nearby forest), or doing a favor that includes overcoming a moderate encounter.
  • Major tokens are taxing requests. These typically require a long-term commitment from the PC, such as cementing a relationship as legally binding (such as adding the NPC into the PC's will or giving a business partner a permanent ownership stake), spending a month of downtime strengthening the relationship, presenting a gift with significant personal meaning and long-term effort or investment (like building a garden or greenhouse so the NPC's favorite rare flowers can be enjoyed all year long), or fulfilling a request for the NPC that includes multiple moderate encounters.

Insults

Source NPC Core pg. 227
Insults are acts that harm an NPC, offend them, or negatively impact their standing.
  • Minor insults are small acts that may be unintentional, such as forgetting to tip a server, not responding to a letter within a reasonable timeframe, or snubbing an NPC at a party.
  • Moderate insults are purposeful acts that may cause slight harm to the NPC. Examples include talking poorly about the NPC within earshot, unintentional property damage, insulting the NPC to their face, or making the NPC look incompetent.
  • Major insults are acts that cause purposeful and lasting harm to the NPC. These include injuring the NPC on purpose, spreading negative rumors about the NPC, undercutting them in a business deal, or betraying the NPC.